The economic recession is hitting prostitutes in England particularly hard. Prices are going down as the market is saturated by more girls willing to do more for less, according to The Economist. However, the second oldest profession may stay in economic free fall indefinitely, at least in developed countries where single, straight, college-educated women outnumber men. Sociologist Mark Regenerus says the shortage of men allows men to dictate the terms of the relationship. Hooking up is in, dating is out. And sex (especially risky sex) is to be expected early on if you want to see that guy again.
Generation X and Y’ers are the ones caught between traditional dating norms (kiss on the third date, sex only in a serious relationship or after marriage) and ground reality (no sex on first date means no shot at second date). We’re trying to figure things out even as technology (Porn! Online dating! Facebook and Twitter!) threatens to outpace our ability to adapt. Women sometimes embrace the new norms, such as this book “It’s Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date”, and a related article on eight couples who made it despite doing it on the first date.
Uh, hold up there. According to a dubious online source, women most likely to get frisky on a first date are “large or overweight, separated, in their early twenties, tall, poorly educated, medium drinkers or widows”. Men willing to do it on the first date are “married, mixed race, athletic, medium drinkers/smokers or in their late twenties”. Interesting. Other studies show that people in California or New York are more likely to have sex on the first date than people from other parts of the U.S.
It’s hard to tell where dating norms are changing and where they are static or at least more slow to change. Some kind of rigorous study is needed to evaluate modern dating and sexual practices, attitudes and norms.
Regardless, now even websites for men are trying to get other men to not have sex on the first date in order to inject a little more anticipation into the dating game. It seems women aren’t the only ones who miss a little courtship.