When we think of sweet, old couples, we don’t think of erotic love. Why is that? Turns out, desire and security are mutually incompatible.
Esther Peel gives a brilliant TED talk on the secret to desire in a long term relationship. She explains that in order to be aroused – the kind of arousal that makes you want to tear off your partner’s clothes and do naughty things in public – there has to be a little mystery, a little danger. By the time you’ve been with your partner for a couple decades, there’s very little mystery or danger left.
Favorite line from Esther’s talk: “We’re aroused at night by what we would probably march against in the day.”
Watch her video. Then go party like this couple.