Desire vs. Security – Why the naughty feels so good!


When we think of sweet, old couples, we don’t think of erotic love. Why is that? Turns out, desire and security are mutually incompatible.

Esther Peel gives a brilliant TED talk on the secret to desire in a long term relationship. She explains that in order to be aroused – the kind of arousal that makes you want to tear off your partner’s clothes and do naughty things in public – there has to be a little mystery, a little danger. By the time you’ve been with your partner for a couple decades, there’s very little mystery or danger left.

Favorite line from Esther’s talk: “We’re aroused at night by what we would probably march against in the day.”

Watch her video. Then go party like this couple.


Bet this couple still makes each other laugh


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