No matter how platonic you think that friendship is with your opposite-sex friend, chances are the guy sees potential romance with the girl.
HARRY WAS RIGHT! (Anyone remember When Harry Met Sally?)
According to the study, heterosexual men are more likely to have at least latent sexual interest in their female friends. Women on the other hand, really do view that guy friend as just a friend. Now the guy and girl view their friendship through very different lenses.
“Males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.”
I can’t be the only one who’s running through my mental list of guy friends. Are there any out there that I’d be willing to date? Because apparently they already have the hots for me! (laughing)
Ok, maybe not so much. A follow-up study found that both sexes see blossoming romance in the friendship as more negative than positive…though men were more open to the possibility than women.
You can read the full article at: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends