Everything We Thought We Knew Is Wrong

Scientists are realizing that our attempts over the past 20 years to understand a “universal human psyche” are misguided because there is no universal human psyche. And their main sample group – Americans – is one of the weirdest groups out there. Culture plays such a huge role that one cannot remove psychology, neuroscience or any…

Work Life vs. Dating Life

It’s really, really hard being successful at both work and dating if you’re a woman. Male-dominated workplaces demand competition, decisiveness, and emotional distance. The dating world demands femininity, passivity, and coyness. I often feel like I have split personalities trying to match cultural norms in both worlds. So I made a cartoon. Because that’s how adults…

Smiling and the Surprising Science Behind Dating Profile Photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love the duck face.

Smiling makes you more attractive. But is that the kind of attention you want? Turns out, there’s some surprising science behind smiling, attraction, and online dating profile photos. Attractive faces are a social signal that impact your social life and opportunities, including mate choice. When people see an attractive face, parts of their brain light…

The Economics of Sex

A brilliant video showing who has the power in today’s dating and mating power dynamics, and why, from The Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture. Hint: Women have power in the short game but men do in the long game (marriage). And we can thank the pill and online dating for those…